Joshua Sierra-Davidson, a Fauquier county 4-H alum, is currently in Japan working as an in intern with the Labo International Exchange Program, a partner of the 4-H Inbound Exchange program. He previously hosted two inbound exchange students, and shares his experience here.

Describe the experience you had being a 4-H Inbound Exchange host sibling.

"I have hosted students from Japan three times. Each time was unforgettable and life-changing. Everyday was a learning experience for both of us. Hosting gives both the family and the delegate exposure to a new world. Even if it's only a month you will feel like they've been part of your family forever."

Was there anything new or interesting you learned?

"I learned I'm horrible at Super Smash Bros™ after losing 24 times straight. But in all seriousness, my understanding of fairness and equality has evolved. Especially in today's world, it's important not just to teach that we can connect regardless of where we originate from but to also give kids the chance and spaces to form their own opinions."

Would you share advice/insight for 4-Hers and 4-H families considering this opportunity in the future? 

"My biggest piece of advice is not to overthink. I feel that I'm a good example of a great and a not-so-great homestay. My first time hosting, I was 12 years old. I won't lie, I wasn’t a great host brother! My youngest sibling is seven years older than me, so I wasn’t used to having to share my mom. 

One of the best hosting experiences I had was super simple. We played video games and board games most of the time. I think we only did around four-to-six outings over the month. But despite that, to this day I still stay in touch with both of them. 

I'm currently living in Japan helping with the 4-H outbound program, and I ended up staying with that first host brother for two months."

Anything else to share?

"From hosting and talking to a lot of host families, these were some of the most common questions and concerns:

"We don't do much, we would be a boring Host-Family"

Your normal is someone's abnormal. The goal of these students is to experience and bond with an American family. Even though it would be awesome to go to disney land it's absolutely not necessary. Whether it's cooking together, doing homework together, or playing board games, that's enough.  Those simple moments laughing and having fun are the ones that are going to stay with you for life. 

"What if they dont speak English?"

While the students are encouraged to learn basic conversational English, it is very likely they won't be fluent. English is a difficult language after all! But spoken communication is not the only way to bond. In my experience, we played charades or used flashcards with pictures whenever they couldn't remember a word. As long as you're patient you'll find ways to connect."